Eight Dates

Eight Dates
Author: John Gottman,Julie Schwartz Gottman,Doug Abrams,Rachel Carlton Abrams
Pages: 224
ISBN: 9781523504466
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Release: 2019-02-05
Editor: Workman Publishing
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

Whether you’re newly together and eager to make it work or a longtime couple looking to strengthen and deepen your bond, Eight Dates offers a program of how, why, and when to have eight basic conversations with your partner that can result in a lifetime of love. “Happily ever after” is not by chance, it’s by choice– the choice each person in a relationship makes to remain open, remain curious, and, most of all, to keep talking to one another. From award-winning marriage researcher and bestselling author Dr. John Gottman and fellow researcher Julie Gottman, Eight Dates offers an ingenious and simple-to-implement approach to effective relationship communication. Here are the subjects that every serious couple should discuss: Trust. Family. Sex and intimacy. Dealing with conflict. Work and money. Dreams, and more. And here is how to talk about them—how to broach subjects that are difficult or embarrassing, how to be brave enough to say what you really feel. There are also suggestions for where and when to go on each date—book your favorite romantic restaurant for the Sex & Intimacy conversation (and maybe go to a yoga or dance class beforehand). There are questionnaires, innovative exercises, real-life case studies, and skills to master, including the Four Skills of Intimate Conversation and the Art of Listening. Because making love last is not about having a certain feeling—it’s about both of you being active and involved.

Eight Dates

Eight Dates
Author: John Gottman,Julie Schwartz Gottman,Doug Abrams,Rachel Carlton Abrams
Pages: 224
ISBN: 9781523505562
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Release: 2019-02-05
Editor: Workman Publishing
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

Strengthen and deepen your love with a fun, ingenious program of eight life-changing conversations—on essential topics such as money, sex, and trust—from two of the world’s leading marriage researchers and clinicians. Navigating the challenges of long-term commitment takes effort—and it just got simpler, with this empowering, step-by-step guide to communicating about the things that matter most to you and your partner. Drawing on forty years of research from their world-famous Love Lab, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman invite couples on eight fun, easy, and profoundly rewarding dates, each one focused on a make-or-break issue: trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams. Interactive activities and prompts provide motivation to stay open, stay curious, and, most of all, stay talking to each other. And the range—from the four skills you need for intimate conversation (including Put Into Words What You Are Feeling) to tips on being honest about your needs, while also validating your partner’s own emotions—will resonate, whether you’re newly together or a longtime couple looking to fortify your bond. You will discover (or rediscover) your partner like never before—and be able to realize your hopes and dreams for the love you desire and deserve.

Eight Dates

Eight Dates
Author: John Gottman,Julie Gottman,Rachel Abrams,Doug Abrams
Pages: 240
ISBN: 9780241988367
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Release: 2019-07-04
Editor: Penguin UK
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

What really makes a relationship work? How can we stay interested in our partner for ever? How can we be happier in our marriage? Doctors John and Julie Gottman have spent over three decades studying the habits of 3000 couples. Within 10 minutes of meeting a couple, they can predict who will stay happily together or who will split up, with 94% accuracy. Based on their findings on the ingredients to a happy, lasting love life, they have now created an easy series of eight dates, spanning: - commitment & trust - conflict resolution - intimacy & sex - fun & adventure - work & money - family values - growth & spirituality - goals & aspirations Eight Dates draws on rigorous scientific and psychological research about how we fall in love using case studies of real-life couples whose relationships have improved after committing time to each other and following the dates. Full of innovative exercises and conversation starters to explore ways to deepen each aspect of the relationship, Eight Dates is an essential resource that makes a relationship fulfilling. 'Can a marriage really be understood? Yes it can. Gottman shows us how' Malcolm Gladwell, author of Blink

Eight Dates

Eight Dates
Author: John Gottman,Julie Gottman,Rachel Abrams,Doug Abrams
Pages: 240
ISBN: 0241988357
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Release: 2019-09-05
Editor: Penguin Life
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

What really makes a relationship work? How can we stay interested in our partner for ever? How can we be happier in our marriage? Doctors John and Julie Gottman have spent over three decades studying the habits of 3000 couples. Within 10 minutes of meeting a couple, they can predict who will stay happily together or who will split up, with 94% accuracy. Based on their findings, they have now created an easy series of eight dates - spanning commitment; trust; conflict; intimacy; sex; fun; work; money; and family values - that will lead to a happier, lasting love life. Eight Datesdraws on rigorous scientific and psychological research about how we fall in love using case studies of real-life couples whose relationships have improved after committing time to each other and following the dates. Full of innovative exercises and conversation starters to explore ways to deepen each aspect of the relationship, Eight Datesis an essential resource that makes a relationship fulfilling.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Author: John Gottman, Ph.D.
Pages: 288
ISBN: 9780609899533
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Release: 2002-02-04
Editor: Harmony
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages. This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Being thoughtful about ordinary matters provides spouses with a solid foundation for resolving conflict when it does occur and finding strategies for living with those issues that cannot be resolved. Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the result of Dr. John Gottman's many years of closely observing thousands of marriages. This kind of longitudinal research has never been done before. Based on his findings, he has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage. Maintain a love map. Foster fondness and admiration. Turn toward instead of away. Accept influence. Solve solvable conflicts. Cope with conflicts you can't resolve. Create shared meaning. Dr. Gottman's unique questionnaires and exercises will guide couples on the road to revitalizing their marriage, or making a strong one even better.

The Man s Guide to Women

The Man s Guide to Women
Author: John Gottman,Julie Schwartz Gottman,Douglas Abrams,Rachel Carlton Abrams, M.D.
Pages: 224
ISBN: 9781623361853
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Release: 2016-02-02
Editor: Rodale Books
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

Results from world-renowned relationship expert John Gottman’s famous Love Lab have proven an incredible truth: Men make or break relationships. Based on 40 years of research, The Man’s Guide to Women unlocks the mystery of how to attract, satisfy, and succeed with a woman for a lifetime. For the first time ever, there is a science-based answer to the age-old question: What do women really want in a man? Dr. Gottman, author of the New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, and his wife and collaborator, clinical psychologist Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD, have pored over the research along with bestselling coauthors Douglas Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD. Together, they have written this definitive guide for men, providing answers on everything from how to approach a woman and build a connection with her to how to truly satisfy her in bed and know when the relationship is on the right track. The Man’s Guide to Women is a must-have playbook for how to play—and win—the game of love.

Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage

Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage
Author: John M. Gottman,Julie Schwartz Gottman,Joan DeClaire
Pages: 275
ISBN: 9781400050192
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Release: 2007
Editor: Harmony
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

The experts at the Love Lab introduce a series of effective tools and practical steps for couples looking to improve or preserve their relationships, explaining how to identify common problems and to develop positive ways to avoid these destructive pitfalls. Reprint. 40,000 first printing.

And Baby Makes Three

And Baby Makes Three
Author: John Mordechai Gottman,Julie Schwartz Gottman
Pages: 252
ISBN: 9781400097388
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Release: 2008
Editor: Harmony
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

Drawing on separate scientific studies, two relationship experts introduce the knowledge and skills couples need to make the transition to parenthood, using practical advice and real-life examples to help couples avoid relationship meltdown, maintain a healthy sex life, preserve emotional intimacy, prevent postpartum depression, and create a nurturing environment. Reprint. 50,000 first printing.

10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology

10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy  Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology
Author: Julie Schwartz Gottman,John M. Gottman
Pages: 288
ISBN: 9780393710502
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Release: 2015-10-26
Editor: W. W. Norton & Company
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

From the country’s leading couple therapist duo, a practical guide to what makes it all work. In 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy, two of the world’s leading couple researchers and therapists give readers an inside tour of what goes on inside the consulting rooms of their practice. They have been doing couples work for decades and still find it challenging and full of learning experiences. This book distills the knowledge they've gained over their years of practice into ten principles at the core of good couples work. Each principle is illustrated with a clinically compiled case plus personal side-notes and storytelling. Topics addressed include: • You know that you need to “treat the relationship,” but how are you supposed to get at something as elusive as “a relationship”? • How do you empathize with both clients if they have opposite points of view? Later on, if they end up separating does that mean you’ve failed? Are you only successful if you keep couples together? • Compared to an individual client, a relationship is an entirely different animal. What should you do first? What should you look for? What questions should you ask? If clients give different answers, who should you believe? • What are you supposed to do with all the emotional and personal history that your clients stir up in you? • How can you make your work research-based? No one who works with couples will want to be without the insight, guidance, and strategies offered in this book.

What Makes Love Last

What Makes Love Last
Author: John Mordechai Gottman,John Gottman,Nan Silver
Pages: 304
ISBN: 9781451608489
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Release: 2013-09-10
Editor: Simon and Schuster
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

"One of the foremost relationship experts at work today applies the insights of science toward understanding the real meaning of trust between a couple. He decodes the "why" behind betrayal and shows how partners can avoid or recover from unfaithfulness and maintain a loving relationship.Dr. John Gottman, the country's pre-eminent researcher on marriage, is famous for his Love Lab at the University of Washington in Seattle where he deciphers the mysteries of human relationships through scientific research. His thirty-five years of exploration have earned him numerous major awards, including from the National Institute of Mental Health, the American Psychological Association, and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Now, Dr. Gottman offers surprising findings and advice on the characteristic that is at the heart of all relationships: Trust. Dr. Gottman has developed a formula that precisely calculates any couple's loyalty level. The results determine a relationship's likely future, including the potential for one or both partners to stray. A Love You Can Trust shows couples how to bolster their trust level and avoid what Dr. Gottman calls the "Roach Motel for Lovers." He describes how the outcome of--"sliding door moments," small pivotal points between a couple, can lead either to more emotional connection or to discontent. He suggests a new approach to handling adultery and reveals the varied and unexpected non-sexual ways that couples often betray each other. A Love You Can Trust guides couples through an empirically tested, trust-building program that will let them repair and maintain a long-term, intimate, and romantic relationship"--

10 Great Dates for Empty Nesters

10 Great Dates for Empty Nesters
Author: David and Claudia Arp
Pages: 224
ISBN: 9780310865636
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Release: 2009-08-30
Editor: Zondervan
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

A simple dating plan that is sure to revive romance and rejuvenate the fun quotient in your empty-nest marriageIt’s just the two of you again and it’s time to renew your relationship. You can reconnect and reclaim that same spark, excitement, and creativity you experienced before you had kids through ten innovative, fun dates guaranteed to spice up your marriage. Specially crafted for empty-nesters, these dates are based on marriage-enriching themes, such as• Becoming a couple again• Rediscovering intimate talk• Revitalizing your love life• Growing together spiritually• Relating to adult children• Becoming best friends10 Great Dates for Empty Nesters will fill your empty nest with fun, friendship, and romance. It is refreshing to read a book about marriage written by people who don’t just believe in marriage but actually understand how it works.—John Gray, Author, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

Fake

Fake
Author: Stephanie Wood
Pages: 352
ISBN: 9781760899110
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Release: 2021-01-05
Editor: Random House Australia
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

When Stephanie Wood meets a former architect turned farmer she embarks on an exhilarating romance with him. He seems compassionate, loving, truthful. They talk about the future. She falls in love. She also becomes increasingly beset by anxiety at his frequent cancellations, no-shows and bizarre excuses. She starts to wonder, who is this man? When she ends the relationship Stephanie reboots her journalism skills and embarks on a romantic investigation. She discovers a story of mind-boggling duplicity and manipulation. She learns that the man she thought she was in love with doesn't exist. She also finds she is not alone; that the world is full of smart people who have suffered at the hands of liars, cheats, narcissists, fantasists and phonies, people enormously skilled in the art of deception. In this brilliantly acute and broad-ranging book, Wood, an award-winning writer and journalist, has written a riveting, important account of contemporary love, and the resilience of those who have witnessed its darkest sides.

The Science of Trust Emotional Attunement for Couples

The Science of Trust  Emotional Attunement for Couples
Author: John M. Gottman
Pages: 496
ISBN: 9780393707403
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Release: 2011-05-09
Editor: W. W. Norton & Company
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

An eminent therapist explains what makes couples compatible and how to sustain a happy marriage. For the past thirty-five years, John Gottman’s research has been internationally recognized for its unprecedented ability to precisely measure interactive processes in couples and to predict the long-term success or failure of relationships. In this groundbreaking book, he presents a new approach to understanding and changing couples: a fundamental social skill called “emotional attunement,” which describes a couple’s ability to fully process and move on from negative emotional events, ultimately creating a stronger relationship. Gottman draws from this longitudinal research and theory to show how emotional attunement can downregulate negative affect, help couples focus on positive traits and memories, and even help prevent domestic violence. He offers a detailed intervention devised to cultivate attunement, thereby helping couples connect, respect, and show affection. Emotional attunement is extended to tackle the subjects of flooding, the story we tell ourselves about our relationship, conflict, personality, changing relationships, and gender. Gottman also explains how to create emotional attunement when it is missing, to lay a foundation that will carry the relationship through difficult times. Gottman encourages couples to cultivate attunement through awareness, tolerance, understanding, non-defensive listening, and empathy. These qualities, he argues, inspire confidence in couples, and the sense that despite the inevitable struggles, the relationship is enduring and resilient. This book, an essential follow-up to his 1999 The Marriage Clinic, offers therapists, students, and researchers detailed intervention for working with couples, and offers couples a roadmap to a stronger future together.

What the Heck Is Self Love Anyway

What the Heck Is Self Love Anyway
Author: Jonathon Aslay
Pages: 165
ISBN: 1092498397
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Release: 2019-04-03
Editor: Unknown
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

If you're like me, you might have tuned out or rejected the idea whenever you hear someone say "you have to love yourself" and you might even say to yourself, what the heck does that mean? Unfortunately, loving yourself can be so foreign of a concept and yet it might also be the very thing that changes your life... for the better in every way. Self-love--our capacity to feed our spirit, fill our 'love cup' and feel inner peace is endless-- we just need to tap into it. But how? How the heck do we create [or experience] inner happiness? That's what this book attempts to address.

Popular Psychology

Popular Psychology
Author: Luis A. Cordón
Pages: 274
ISBN: 0313324573
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Release: 2005
Editor: Greenwood Publishing Group
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

Entries cover a variety of topics in the field of popular psychology, including acupuncture, emotional intelligence, brainwashing, chemical inbalance, and seasonal affective disorder.

German Ethnography in Australia

German Ethnography in Australia
Author: Nicolas Peterson,Anna Kenny
Pages: 495
ISBN: 9781760461324
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Release: 2017-09-21
Editor: ANU Press
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

The contribution of German ethnography to Australian anthropological scholarship on Aboriginal societies and cultures has been limited, primarily because few people working in the field read German. But it has also been neglected because its humanistic concerns with language, religion and mythology contrasted with the mainstream British social anthropological tradition that prevailed in Australia until the late 1960s. The advent of native title claims, which require drawing on the earliest ethnography for any area, together with an increase in research on rock art of the Kimberley region, has stimulated interest in this German ethnography, as have some recent book translations. Even so, several major bodies of ethnography, such as the 13 volumes on the cultures of northeastern South Australia and the seven volumes on the Aranda of the Alice Springs region, remain inaccessible, along with many ethnographically rich articles and reports in mission archives. In 18 chapters, this book introduces and reviews the significance of this neglected work, much of it by missionaries who first wrote on Australian Aboriginal cultures in the 1840s. Almost all of these German speakers, in particular the missionaries, learnt an Aboriginal language in order to be able to document religious beliefs, mythology and songs as a first step to conversion. As a result, they produced an enormously valuable body of work that will greatly enrich regional ethnographies.

This Time Is Different

This Time Is Different
Author: Carmen M. Reinhart,Kenneth Rogoff
Pages: 463
ISBN: 9780691152646
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Release: 2011-08-07
Editor: Princeton University Press
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

Examines financial crises of the past and discusses similarities between these events and the current crisis, presenting and comparing historical patterns in bank failures, inflation, debt, currency, housing, employment, and government spending.

Cultures of Collecting

Cultures of Collecting
Author: Roger Cardinal
Pages: 320
ISBN: 9781861894212
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Release: 2004-09-02
Editor: Reaktion Books
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

This book traces the psychology, history and theory of the compulsion to collect, focusing not just on the normative collections of the Western canon, but also on collections that reflect a fascination with the "Other" and the marginal – the ephemeral, exotic, or just plain curious. There are essays on the Neoclassical architect Sir John Soane, Sigmund Freud and Kurt Schwitters, one of the masters of collage. Others examine imperialist encounters with remote cultures – the consquitadors in America in the sixteenth century, and the British in the Pacific in the eighteenth – and the more recent collectors of popular culture, be they of Swatch watches, Elvis Presley memorabilia or of packaging and advertising. With essays by Jean Baudrillard, Thomas DaCosta Kaufmann, Nicholas Thomas, Mieke Bal, John Forrester, John Windsor, Naomi Schor, Susan Stewart, Anthony Alan Shelton, John Elsner, Roger Cardinal and an interview with Robert Opie.

The Hacienda

The Hacienda
Author: Peter Hook
Pages: 352
ISBN: 9781847378477
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Release: 2009-10-01
Editor: Simon and Schuster
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

Legendary musician Peter Hook tells the whole story - the fun, the music, the vast loss of money, the legacy - of Manchester's most iconic nightclub Peter Hook, as co-founder of Joy Division and New Order, has been shaping the course of popular music for thirty years. He provided the propulsive bass guitar melodies of 'Love Will Tear Us Apart' and the bestselling 12-inch single ever, 'Blue Monday' among many other songs. As co-owner of Manchester's Hacienda club, Hook propelled the rise of acid house in the late 1980s, then suffered through its violent fall in the 1990s as gangs, drugs, greed and a hostile police force destroyed everything he and his friends had created. This is his memory of that era and 'it's far sadder, funnier, scarier and stranger' than anyone has imagined. As young and naive musicians, the members of New Order were thrilled when their record label Factory opened a club. Yet as their career escalated, they toured the world and had top ten hits, their royalties were being ploughed into the Hacienda and they were only being paid £20 per week. Peter Hook looked back at that exciting and hilarious time to write HACIENDA. All the main characters appear - Tony Wilson, Barney, Shaun Ryder - and Hook tells it like it was - a rollercoaster of success, money, confusion and true faith.

The Relationship Cure

The Relationship Cure
Author: John Gottman, PhD,Joan DeClaire
Pages: 336
ISBN: 9781524761776
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Release: 2017-02-22
Editor: Harmony
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

From the country’s foremost relationship expert and New York Times bestselling author Dr. John M. Gottman comes a powerful, simple five-step program, based on twenty years of innovative research, for greatly improving all of the relationships in your life—with spouses and lovers, children, siblings, and even your colleagues at work. Gottman provides the tools you need to make your relationships thrive. In The Relationship Cure, Dr. Gottman: - Reveals the key elements of healthy relationships, emphasizing the importance of what he calls “emotional connection” - Introduces the powerful new concept of the emotional “bid,” the fundamental unit of emotional connection - Provides remarkably empowering tools for improving the way you bid for emotional connection and how you respond to others’ bids - And more! Packed with fascinating questionnaires and exercises developed in his therapy, The Relationship Cure offers a simple but profound program that will fundamentally transform the quality of all of the relationships in your life.