Eight Dates

Eight Dates
Author: John Gottman,Julie Schwartz Gottman,Doug Abrams,Rachel Carlton Abrams
Pages: 224
ISBN: 9781523504466
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Release: 2019-02-05
Editor: Workman Publishing
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

Whether you’re newly together and eager to make it work or a longtime couple looking to strengthen and deepen your bond, Eight Dates offers a program of how, why, and when to have eight basic conversations with your partner that can result in a lifetime of love. “Happily ever after” is not by chance, it’s by choice– the choice each person in a relationship makes to remain open, remain curious, and, most of all, to keep talking to one another. From award-winning marriage researcher and bestselling author Dr. John Gottman and fellow researcher Julie Gottman, Eight Dates offers an ingenious and simple-to-implement approach to effective relationship communication. Here are the subjects that every serious couple should discuss: Trust. Family. Sex and intimacy. Dealing with conflict. Work and money. Dreams, and more. And here is how to talk about them—how to broach subjects that are difficult or embarrassing, how to be brave enough to say what you really feel. There are also suggestions for where and when to go on each date—book your favorite romantic restaurant for the Sex & Intimacy conversation (and maybe go to a yoga or dance class beforehand). There are questionnaires, innovative exercises, real-life case studies, and skills to master, including the Four Skills of Intimate Conversation and the Art of Listening. Because making love last is not about having a certain feeling—it’s about both of you being active and involved.

Eight Dates

Eight Dates
Author: John Gottman,Julie Schwartz Gottman,Doug Abrams,Rachel Carlton Abrams
Pages: 224
ISBN: 9781523505562
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Release: 2019-02-05
Editor: Workman Publishing
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

Strengthen and deepen your love with a fun, ingenious program of eight life-changing conversations—on essential topics such as money, sex, and trust—from two of the world’s leading marriage researchers and clinicians. Navigating the challenges of long-term commitment takes effort—and it just got simpler, with this empowering, step-by-step guide to communicating about the things that matter most to you and your partner. Drawing on forty years of research from their world-famous Love Lab, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman invite couples on eight fun, easy, and profoundly rewarding dates, each one focused on a make-or-break issue: trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams. Interactive activities and prompts provide motivation to stay open, stay curious, and, most of all, stay talking to each other. And the range—from the four skills you need for intimate conversation (including Put Into Words What You Are Feeling) to tips on being honest about your needs, while also validating your partner’s own emotions—will resonate, whether you’re newly together or a longtime couple looking to fortify your bond. You will discover (or rediscover) your partner like never before—and be able to realize your hopes and dreams for the love you desire and deserve.

Eight Dates

Eight Dates
Author: John Gottman,Julie Gottman,Rachel Abrams,Doug Abrams
Pages: 240
ISBN: 0241988357
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Release: 2019-09-05
Editor: Penguin Life
Language: un

Explanation of the Book:

What really makes a relationship work? How can we stay interested in our partner for ever? How can we be happier in our marriage? Doctors John and Julie Gottman have spent over three decades studying the habits of 3000 couples. Within 10 minutes of meeting a couple, they can predict who will stay happily together or who will split up, with 94% accuracy. Based on their findings, they have now created an easy series of eight dates - spanning commitment; trust; conflict; intimacy; sex; fun; work; money; and family values - that will lead to a happier, lasting love life. Eight Datesdraws on rigorous scientific and psychological research about how we fall in love using case studies of real-life couples whose relationships have improved after committing time to each other and following the dates. Full of innovative exercises and conversation starters to explore ways to deepen each aspect of the relationship, Eight Datesis an essential resource that makes a relationship fulfilling.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
Author: John Gottman, Ph.D.
Pages: 288
ISBN: 9780609899533
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Release: 2002-02-04
Editor: Harmony
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

Just as Masters and Johnson were pioneers in the study of human sexuality, so Dr. John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage. As a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and the founder and director of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute, he has studied the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over the course of many years. His findings, and his heavily attended workshops, have already turned around thousands of faltering marriages. This book is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward in their approach, yet profound in their effect, these principles teach partners new and startling strategies for making their marriage work. Gottman helps couples focus on each other, on paying attention to the small day-to-day moments that, strung together, make up the heart and soul of any relationship. Being thoughtful about ordinary matters provides spouses with a solid foundation for resolving conflict when it does occur and finding strategies for living with those issues that cannot be resolved. Packed with questionnaires and exercises whose effectiveness has been proven in Dr. Gottman's workshops, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the result of Dr. John Gottman's many years of closely observing thousands of marriages. This kind of longitudinal research has never been done before. Based on his findings, he has culled seven principles essential to the success of any marriage. Maintain a love map. Foster fondness and admiration. Turn toward instead of away. Accept influence. Solve solvable conflicts. Cope with conflicts you can't resolve. Create shared meaning. Dr. Gottman's unique questionnaires and exercises will guide couples on the road to revitalizing their marriage, or making a strong one even better.

The Man s Guide to Women

The Man s Guide to Women
Author: John Gottman,Julie Schwartz Gottman,Douglas Abrams,Rachel Carlton Abrams, M.D.
Pages: 224
ISBN: 9781623361853
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Release: 2016-02-02
Editor: Rodale Books
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

Results from world-renowned relationship expert John Gottman’s famous Love Lab have proven an incredible truth: Men make or break relationships. Based on 40 years of research, The Man’s Guide to Women unlocks the mystery of how to attract, satisfy, and succeed with a woman for a lifetime. For the first time ever, there is a science-based answer to the age-old question: What do women really want in a man? Dr. Gottman, author of the New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, and his wife and collaborator, clinical psychologist Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD, have pored over the research along with bestselling coauthors Douglas Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD. Together, they have written this definitive guide for men, providing answers on everything from how to approach a woman and build a connection with her to how to truly satisfy her in bed and know when the relationship is on the right track. The Man’s Guide to Women is a must-have playbook for how to play—and win—the game of love.

If the Buddha Dated

If the Buddha Dated
Author: Charlotte Davis Kasl
Pages: 212
ISBN: 0140195831
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Release: 1999
Editor: Penguin
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

Approaching the dating process as a means for awakening, the author offers quotes from wisdom traditions

8 Great Dates for Moms and Daughters

8 Great Dates for Moms and Daughters
Author: Dannah Gresh
Pages: 192
ISBN: 9780736961158
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Release: 2014-08-01
Editor: Harvest House Publishers
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

With all the pressures and influences of today’s world, Christian moms worry about their little girls and how they will grow up. Quality time between a mom and a daughter can be the greatest protection against the world’s pressures to make a girl mature too quickly. Knowing this, Dannah Gresh, popular speaker and founder of the Secret Keeper Girl conferences, has developed a host of dating ideas to help moms invest the time needed to deeply connect with their daughters. 8 Great Dates includes fun mother-daughter get-togethers, perfect one-on-one or for a small group of moms and their energetic 8-12 year-old daughters. Each date focuses on one topic surrounding beauty and modesty and is full of fun while at the same time imparting a life and faith-enhancing message. The book provides a mom with everything she needs to plan and carry out the activities and includes topics such as: The power of true beauty—what makes a girl beautiful? Truth or bare fashions—how to balance fashion and godly modesty Hair, makeup and clothes—who should be your model? Here’s the secret to bringing up healthy, grounded, and spiritually rich girls!

Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage

Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage
Author: John M. Gottman,Julie Schwartz Gottman,Joan DeClaire
Pages: 275
ISBN: 9781400050192
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Release: 2007
Editor: Harmony
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

The experts at the Love Lab introduce a series of effective tools and practical steps for couples looking to improve or preserve their relationships, explaining how to identify common problems and to develop positive ways to avoid these destructive pitfalls. Reprint. 40,000 first printing.

And Baby Makes Three

And Baby Makes Three
Author: John Mordechai Gottman,Julie Schwartz Gottman
Pages: 252
ISBN: 9781400097388
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Release: 2008
Editor: Harmony
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

Drawing on separate scientific studies, two relationship experts introduce the knowledge and skills couples need to make the transition to parenthood, using practical advice and real-life examples to help couples avoid relationship meltdown, maintain a healthy sex life, preserve emotional intimacy, prevent postpartum depression, and create a nurturing environment. Reprint. 50,000 first printing.

What Makes Love Last

What Makes Love Last
Author: John Mordechai Gottman,John Gottman,Nan Silver
Pages: 304
ISBN: 9781451608489
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Release: 2013-09-10
Editor: Simon and Schuster
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

"One of the foremost relationship experts at work today applies the insights of science toward understanding the real meaning of trust between a couple. He decodes the "why" behind betrayal and shows how partners can avoid or recover from unfaithfulness and maintain a loving relationship.Dr. John Gottman, the country's pre-eminent researcher on marriage, is famous for his Love Lab at the University of Washington in Seattle where he deciphers the mysteries of human relationships through scientific research. His thirty-five years of exploration have earned him numerous major awards, including from the National Institute of Mental Health, the American Psychological Association, and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Now, Dr. Gottman offers surprising findings and advice on the characteristic that is at the heart of all relationships: Trust. Dr. Gottman has developed a formula that precisely calculates any couple's loyalty level. The results determine a relationship's likely future, including the potential for one or both partners to stray. A Love You Can Trust shows couples how to bolster their trust level and avoid what Dr. Gottman calls the "Roach Motel for Lovers." He describes how the outcome of--"sliding door moments," small pivotal points between a couple, can lead either to more emotional connection or to discontent. He suggests a new approach to handling adultery and reveals the varied and unexpected non-sexual ways that couples often betray each other. A Love You Can Trust guides couples through an empirically tested, trust-building program that will let them repair and maintain a long-term, intimate, and romantic relationship"--

The Marriage Clinic Casebook

The Marriage Clinic Casebook
Author: Julie Schwartz Gottman
Pages: 240
ISBN: 9780393712407
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Release: 2004-10-17
Editor: W. W. Norton & Company
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

The Marriage Clinic Casebook bridges the gap between the powerful theory behind Gottman Method Couples Therapy and the unique application of therapeutic principles to real-life cases. Covering a broad range of couples as well as a variety of relational problems, this casebook is a resource for clinicians who want practical guidance for putting the powerful Gottman method to work.

10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology

10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy  Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology
Author: Julie Schwartz Gottman,John M. Gottman
Pages: 288
ISBN: 9780393710502
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Release: 2015-10-26
Editor: W. W. Norton & Company
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

From the country’s leading couple therapist duo, a practical guide to what makes it all work. In 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy, two of the world’s leading couple researchers and therapists give readers an inside tour of what goes on inside the consulting rooms of their practice. They have been doing couples work for decades and still find it challenging and full of learning experiences. This book distills the knowledge they've gained over their years of practice into ten principles at the core of good couples work. Each principle is illustrated with a clinically compiled case plus personal side-notes and storytelling. Topics addressed include: • You know that you need to “treat the relationship,” but how are you supposed to get at something as elusive as “a relationship”? • How do you empathize with both clients if they have opposite points of view? Later on, if they end up separating does that mean you’ve failed? Are you only successful if you keep couples together? • Compared to an individual client, a relationship is an entirely different animal. What should you do first? What should you look for? What questions should you ask? If clients give different answers, who should you believe? • What are you supposed to do with all the emotional and personal history that your clients stir up in you? • How can you make your work research-based? No one who works with couples will want to be without the insight, guidance, and strategies offered in this book.

Eight Simple Rules for Dating a Dragon

Eight Simple Rules for Dating a Dragon
Author: Kerrelyn Sparks
Pages: 304
ISBN: 9781250108265
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Release: 2018-03-27
Editor: St. Martin's Paperbacks
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

EIGHT SIMPLE RULES FOR DATING A DRAGON “Deeply satisfying, delightfully swoon-inducing.”—Publishers Weekly on Kerrelyn Sparks’s Love at Stake series TRUTH—OR DARE? Gwennore is an Elf able to track down the cause of a certain illness and heal it—a valuable asset to her people. But when she is thrust into the realm of the dragons, she discovers a haunted place of power, passion, and magic—one that is plagued by an ancient curse. When she meets the smoldering General Silas Dravenko, Gwen knows she’s entered a whole new world of trouble. She’s been raised never to trust a dragon. So why does making a deal with the devil feel so good? Silas has no way of saving the royal family he’s served for years. But when a beautiful, innocent elf comes bursting into his world, Silas is awakened to desire in a way he’s never felt before. But how can he trust a sworn enemy. . .and how can he live without her, in Eight Simple Rules for Dating a Dragon by New York Times bestselling author Kerrelyn Sparks.

The Science of Couples and Family Therapy Behind the Scenes at the Love Lab

The Science of Couples and Family Therapy  Behind the Scenes at the  Love Lab
Author: John M. Gottman,Julie Schwartz Gottman
Pages: 320
ISBN: 9780393712759
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Release: 2018-01-02
Editor: W. W. Norton & Company
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

John and Julie Gottman, world-renowned for bringing an evidence base to couples therapy, report here the results of a second empirical revolution in understanding couples and families. This change is not based on their guesswork, but on state-of-the-art science. The book you hold in your hands finally completes the old general systems theory of the 1960s, which metaphorically described processes but did not actually research them. A new general systems theory and therapy is presented here, one which will have profound implications for powerful clinical work with both couples and families. This new theory is based on 45 years of careful basic scientific research with thousands of couples and families, including synchronized observational, interview, physiological, and questionnaire data. The Gottmans have studied some families for as long as 20 consecutive years. Their work has led to their highly replicated ability to precisely predict the future of relationships, relationship happiness, and whether couples will divorce or not with as much as 94% accuracy. Their empirical work has also led them to develop and test a theory of specifically what makes relationships work. Each construct in this theory is precise and measurable and it is all written about and described here. This book presents an original new way of understanding relationships and families. Both theoretical and highly practical, and it will help clinicians become more effective in their everyday work.

Gaslighting

Gaslighting
Author: Stephanie Sarkis
Pages: 272
ISBN: 9781409187882
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Release: 2018-11-01
Editor: Hachette UK
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

Gaslighting. What it is, how you can spot it - and how you can break free He's the charmer - the witty, confident, but overly controlling date. She's the woman on your team who always manages to take credit for your good work. He's the neighbour who swears you've been putting your rubbish into his bins, or the politician who can never admit to a mistake. Gaslighters are master controllers and manipulators, often challenging your very sense of reality. Whether it's a spouse, parent, co-worker, or friend, gaslighters distort the truth - by lying, withholding, triangulation, and more - making their victims question their own reality and sanity. Dr Stephanie Sarkis delves into this hidden manipulation technique, covering gaslighting in every life scenario, sharing: · Why gaslighters seem so 'normal' at first · Warning signs and examples · Gaslighter 'red flags' on a first date · Practical strategies for coping · How to co-parent with a gaslighter · How to protect yourself from a gaslighter at work · How to walk away and rebuild your life With clear-eyed wisdom and empathy, Dr Sarkis not only helps you determine if you are being victimized by a gaslighter - she gives you the tools to break free and heal.

The Communication Book 44 Ideas for Better Conversations Every Day

The Communication Book  44 Ideas for Better Conversations Every Day
Author: Mikael Krogerus,Roman Tschäppeler
Pages: 208
ISBN: 9781324001997
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Release: 2020-02-04
Editor: W. W. Norton & Company
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

Mikael Krogerus and Roman Tschäppeler have tested the 44 most important communication theories and distilled them in book form, alongside clear and entertaining illustrations. Want better conversations? Ask open-ended questions that have no right or wrong answers—make your partner feel brilliant. Want better meetings? Ban smartphones, use a timer, and make everyone stand up. Want better business deals? Focus on the thing, rather than the person; on similarities, rather than differences; and on good outcomes, rather than perfect ones. Whether you want to present ideas more clearly, improve your small talk, or master the art of introspection, The Communication Book delivers, fusing theoretical knowledge and practical advice in a small but mighty package. With sections on work, the self, relationships and language, this book is indispensable for anyone who wants to improve what they say, and how they say it.

28 Summers

28 Summers
Author: Elin Hilderbrand
Pages: 432
ISBN: 9780316420051
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Release: 2020-06-16
Editor: Little, Brown
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

A "captivating and bittersweet" novel by the #1 New York Times bestselling author of Summer of '69: Their secret love affair has lasted for decades—but this could be the summer that changes everything (People). When Mallory Blessing's son, Link, receives deathbed instructions from his mother to call a number on a slip of paper in her desk drawer, he's not sure what to expect. But he certainly does not expect Jake McCloud to answer. It's the late spring of 2020 and Jake's wife, Ursula DeGournsey, is the frontrunner in the upcoming Presidential election. There must be a mistake, Link thinks. How do Mallory and Jake know each other? Flash back to the sweet summer of 1993: Mallory has just inherited a beachfront cottage on Nantucket from her aunt, and she agrees to host her brother's bachelor party. Cooper's friend from college, Jake McCloud, attends, and Jake and Mallory form a bond that will persevere—through marriage, children, and Ursula's stratospheric political rise—until Mallory learns she's dying. Based on the classic film Same Time Next Year (which Mallory and Jake watch every summer), 28 Summers explores the agony and romance of a one-weekend-per-year affair and the dramatic ways this relationship complicates and enriches their lives, and the lives of the people they love.

What the Heck Is Self Love Anyway

What the Heck Is Self Love Anyway
Author: Jonathon Aslay
Pages: 165
ISBN: 1092498397
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Release: 2019-04-03
Editor: Unknown
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

If you're like me, you might have tuned out or rejected the idea whenever you hear someone say "you have to love yourself" and you might even say to yourself, what the heck does that mean? Unfortunately, loving yourself can be so foreign of a concept and yet it might also be the very thing that changes your life... for the better in every way. Self-love--our capacity to feed our spirit, fill our 'love cup' and feel inner peace is endless-- we just need to tap into it. But how? How the heck do we create [or experience] inner happiness? That's what this book attempts to address.

This Time Is Different

This Time Is Different
Author: Carmen M. Reinhart,Kenneth Rogoff
Pages: 463
ISBN: 9780691152646
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Release: 2011-08-07
Editor: Princeton University Press
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

Examines financial crises of the past and discusses similarities between these events and the current crisis, presenting and comparing historical patterns in bank failures, inflation, debt, currency, housing, employment, and government spending.

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail
Author: John Gottman
Pages: 240
ISBN: 9781439126189
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Release: 2012-12-11
Editor: Simon and Schuster
Language: en

Explanation of the Book:

Psychologist John Gottman has spent twenty years studying what makes a marriage last. Now you can use his tested methods to evaluate, strengthen, and maintain your own long-term relationship. This breakthrough book guides you through a series of self-tests designed to help you determine what kind of marriage you have, where your strengths and weaknesses are, and what specific actions you can take to help your marriage. You'll also learn that more sex doesn't necessarily improve a marriage, frequent arguing will not lead to divorce, financial problems do not always spell trouble in a relationship, wives who make sour facial expressions when their husbands talk are likely to be separated within four years and there is a reason husbands withdraw from arguments—and there's a way around it. Dr. Gottman teaches you how to recognize attitudes that doom a marriage—contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling—and provides practical exercises, quizzes, tips, and techniques that will help you understand and make the most of your relationship. You can avoid patterns that lead to divorce, and—Why Marriages Succeed or Fail will show you how.